Failure to set boundaries (v. 34:1-2). As parents, what boundaries have you set for your young or adult children to reduce the chances of them falling into a terrible situation? If you are an independent adult, what personal boundaries have you set for yourself to protect you from harmful and messy circumstances?
Failure to take the right action (v. 34:3-7). What happens when parents fail to rebuke and discipline their children “because of love”? How could being a passive member of the family lead to dysfunction in family life? Think of a situation wherein how you act will significantly have an effect on you and/or others around you (i.e. your child is being bullied or a bully; anomalies in the workplace; cheating classmates, etc.). What significant guidelines do James 4:17 and Isaiah 1:17 provide in doing the right thing?
Failure to tell the truth (v. 34:8-24). Lies and deception create problems and complications which are hard to control. In our Asian family culture, it is quite common to see issues being swept under the rug rather than admit there are problems and dysfunctions in the household. Are there any “family secrets” that you should be upfront with to your children (taking into consideration their age, of course)? Why is it always beneficial to always be truthful, done in love, in all your relationships even if the truth hurts?
Failure to control emotions (v. 34:25-29). What happens when you fail to control your emotions, especially pent-up anger? What could an angry person be capable of saying or doing that he/she may eventually regret when the anger subsides? What happens if that person has justified that anger in his/her mind? Read Galatians 5:16-24. How does the Holy Spirit help you in this situation?
Failure to identify confused priorities (v. 34:30-31). In the family culture you grew up in, what do you hold in highest priority? Why are most people, even Christians, so absorbed in taking care of their reputations that they neglect to care for the needs of their families? Read Matthew 6:33 and Luke 12:34. What is the outcome if the priority of your life is to glorify God and honor Him in the way you live?